Keeping a Tight Reign on our Tongues!
Have you ever lost your temper and said angry words that you regretted? I certainly have. I love my children and I would do anything for them. But parenting my children has been tough at times. There have been many times in which I have felt pushed to the limit and I discovered character traits in myself that I didn’t even know existed. For instance, when my children were in their teenage years I realized that I had a problem with being quick to become angry. If my teenage son made a poor choice, or ignored my advice, or acted ungratefully, or treated me disrespectfully, or behaved in a rebellious way I would lose my temper and would say words that could be destructive and hurtful. I remember being surprised by how my caring, nurturing, compassionate feelings could shut off and my anger would ignite. I also vividly remember how I felt after my anger subsided. I felt surprised and confused by why I was so angry. I felt ashamed and embarrassed by my inability to control my anger. I often hated myself for my response.
I realized during my children’s teenage years that I needed help with my anger because my relationships with my children were being harmed by my anger responses. (It’s hard to trust and respect a tornado!) Regardless of how justifiable my anger may have been, I didn’t want to hurt my children. And so, through the help of some important mentors in my life (and by reading some excellent books which helped me understand the teenager better), I came to understand two things. First, anger is a secondary emotion and is the result of primary feelings of rejection, hurt, sadness, loss, helplessness, etc. When primary feelings cannot be resolved, anger is triggered and it is often directed outwards. I realized that my anger was most often triggered by feelings of rejection and hurt. (I had been accustomed to my children behaving in a certain way, responding to me in ways that I liked. And when they began to change their responses and behaviors, and stopped taking my advice and direction, I began to feel rejected and hurt.) The second thing I came to understand is that God was not pleased with my anger response and He wanted to help me gain control of my anger responses: “If anyone considers himself religious and yet does not keep a tight reign on his tongue, he deceives himself and his religion is WORTHLESS. Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man’s anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires. Therefore, get rid of all moral filth and the evil that is so prevalent and humbly accept the word planted in you, which can save you.” (James 1:19-21)
I wish I could say that my anger responses disappeared by gaining knowledge and being rebuked by James 1:19-21! For a number of years (with both of my boys, whom are 8 years apart), I sometimes found it to be a daily battle to recognize my primary emotions, and to stop myself from getting angry. Often I failed. Yet each time I came to see clearly that my anger-response was destructive to my relationship with my children and to God and I desperately wanted to change. I found that the only way I could win the battle was to choose to ‘walk away’ and claim Scripture through prayer (ex: Romans 7:25 – “The answer, thank God, is that Jesus Christ can and does. He acted to set things right in this life of contradictions where I want to serve God with all my heart and mind, but am pulled by the influence of sin to do something totally different. The answer is that Jesus Christ can and does.”)
I praise God that years later, my relationship with my children remains intact and God was able “to will and to act in order to fulfill His good purpose”. (Philippians 2:13) I give God all the credit for being able to gain control over my anger response and change my heart. I praise God that His love covers a multitude of sins and He continually works to restore and refine our relationships!
If you struggle with anger in your relationship, do not be afraid to take control and reach out to God and to others for support. Remember, God desires to set things right and He can bring about right relationships – with our children, spouses, family, friends, colleagues – and most importantly with Him!
Chinook Winds Adventist Academy
CHARACTER VALUE OF THE MONTH: During the month of May we are focusing on the character of God – HUMILITY. The Bible says, “God is against the proud, but gives grace to the humble. So be humble under God’s powerful hand and He will lift you up when the time is right.” 1 Peter 5:5-6
CWAA SPRING MUSIC CONCERT: Thank you to all of the students and parents that made it out to the Spring Concert this past Thursday. It was lovely to see this special whole-school event so well-attended. What a great experience that we had sharing music together! I may be the one with the ideas and who receives the beautiful flowers and recognition, but it takes a whole lot of people to make a special event like that a success.
Firstly, I want to thank the CWAA board and administration who place value in providing our kids (including mine) a well-supported music program at CWAA. Thank you Mrs. Melashenko for creating and printing the beautiful award certificates and for the card and flowers. Thanks to Lyn and Shawney for editing and to Valerie for printing and folding the concert programs. Special thanks to Pastor Brent for working hard behind the scenes solving my technical iTunes problems, driving around getting equipment and setting up and running the complex A/V we needed for the concert. Thanks to Melissa Brown for picking up the watermelon and to Shannon Hinzman, Nora Meta and Sandra Dodds for cutting the fruit up for the after-concert treat. Thanks to my husband, Julian who picks up the slack in our family when I’m busy around touring and concert time and who always brings us supper on concert day. Thanks to Theo, Remlech, Talia, Reuben, Darwin and Alysia who helped me build and set up the risers on Wednesday after school. Thank you Elementary teachers for collecting, directing and corralling your students during the rehearsals and concert and to the high school teachers for happily doing the jobs I assigned you. Your support is greatly appreciated. Thank you to all of the students, parents and staff who took down after the concert. I think 23 minutes is a new record to beat! Overall, I pray that our musical gift was acceptable to our Heavenly Father who has gifted us with the means to praise him with our music and our lives.
RE-REGISTRATION UPDATE: Classes are filling up and we would like to ask all parents who have not yet submitted their Re-Registration package to bring this into the school office.
CWAA OFFERS NEW JUNIOR KINDERGARTEN PROGRAM: We are thrilled to report that we have received 17 applications to date into our Kindergarten program. Praise God! (You may recall last year at this time we only had 4 students registered in Kindergarten!) We have also received a significant number of inquiries from families of children who do not meet our entrance requirements for our regular Kindergarten program. As such, the CWAA Board has made the decision to offer a NEW JUNIOR KINDERGARTEN program starting this next year. The NEW JUNIOR KINDERGARTEN program will be offered at the same time as our Senior Kindergarten program (Monday-Thursday, 8:30 am – 3:15 pm). The age requirement for the NEW JUNIOR KINDERGARTEN will be 4.5 years old on or before September 1, 2017. (The Senior Kindergarten age requirement is 5.0 years old on or before September 30, 2017.) The NEW JUNIOR KINDERGARTEN program will be offered in a different space, and taught by a different teacher! (The CWAA Board is working on these final details at this time!)
CWAA GENTLY-USED UNIFORM SALE: Due to interest (and a large number of remaining clothing items), our used uniform sale from our inventory will continue this week. Parents may select their clothing items from the tables in the lobby and pay at the office by cash, debit, cheque or credit.
GRADE 12 GRADUATION: CWAA’s graduating Class of 2017 invite you to attend their graduation ceremonies at Chinook Winds Adventist Academy this weekend. The Consecration Service begins at 6 pm on Sabbath, June 3; the Commencement Service begins at 12 noon on Sunday, June 4. Come join us for this special and memorable occasion!
GRADE 9 SWEET TREAT FUNDRAISING SALES: Baked goods and frozen treats on sale during lunch hour with prices varying between $.50 to $1.00 on the following days:
Tuesday – Elementary and Secondary Students
Thursday – Secondary Students
CWAA BAPTISM PRAISE SERVICE: Join us at 7 PM on Sabbath evening, June 17 as we celebrate the baptisms of several of our students and spend some time praising God for what He has done this school year at Chinook Winds Adventist Academy!
CWAA CONSTITUENCY MEETING: A Special Constituency Meeting will be held at Chinook Winds Adventist Academy on Monday, June 19, 2017 at 7:00 p.m. The agenda of the Special Constituency Meeting will be to vote on CWAA’s new Constitution and Bylaws.
PRAYING PARENTS: Praying Parents will be meeting again this Thursday, June 1.
IMPORTANT UPCOMING DATES:
May 29-June 1 Grade 5/6 Outdoor School (no school for Gr 5/6 on June 2)
June 3 Concert Choir at Calgary Central Church
June 3 Grade 12 Graduation Consecration Service at 6 pm
June 4 Grade 12 Graduation Commencement Service at 12 noon
June 6 Grade 9 Year End Celebration
June 8 Kindergarten & Grade 10 Field Trip to Calgary Zoo
June 12 Grade 6 Year End Celebration
June 17 Baptism & Praise Service 7 pm
June 17 Concert Choir at Southside Church
June 19 CWAA Special Constistuency Meeting 7 pm
June 20 Elementary Sports Day (afternoon)
June 21 Grades 1-4 Calaway Park Trip
June 23 Elementary Last Day of School with Noon Dismissal
June 23 Elementary Awards Ceremony 7 pm
June 29 Secondary Awards Ceremony 7 pm
In his book, Transforming Children Into Spiritual Champions, George Barna states the following: “Every choice we make is ultimately a spiritual decision” (p. 30). Do you agree with this bold statement? Could it be that even the little, seemingly routine choices that you make every day are spiritual choices? Is the choice of what radio station to listen to on the way to work or school a spiritual decision? Is the choice of what app to open on your smartphone when you have a few free minutes waiting for a doctor’s appointment a spiritual decision? Is the choice of what to pack in your lunch bag a spiritual decision?
George Barna points out that “If your life is to be lived for a grand purpose–namely, to love God with all your heart, mind, strength and soul, and to love others as you love yourself–then you must evaluate each choice you make in light of its consistency with that purpose (see Luke 10:27).”
As we seek to “Let HIS Light Shine,” may we remember the spiritual connection that every single one of our choices has.
Chinook Winds Adventist Academy